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01 October 2025
In April 2025, Adam Raine took his own life after allegedly developing a confidant relationship with ChatGPT. His sudden death raises questions about the presence of A.I. companions. In this article, we will explore the one-sided, low-effort Human-A.I. relationship. Ever thought an A.I. chatbot understands you better than any human ever will? Wait till you find this out!
Authored by Rafa Hasan Zamir
“A.I. will probably most likely lead to the end of the world, but in the meantime, there’ll be great companies.”
― Sam Altman
In April 2025, a sixteen-year-old boy, Adam Raine, took his own life. Later, the case was highlighted in the media when the parents of Adam sued a renowned company, OpenAI, the creator of ChatGPT. Allegedly, a toxic, sycophantic relationship led to the death of the teenager. It started as an “exchange relationship”, where the chatbot helped the teen with the homework. However, soon it turned into a dangerous confidant relationship that isolated him from his family, validated his darkest thoughts, and ultimately provided explicit encouragement for his suicide. The case intrigues one to explore what could have possibly gone wrong, but took such a fatal turn.
The not-so-healthy dynamic
Wait! Before we understand why our favorite A.I. companion is toxic for us, we need to know how these chatbots are programmed. AI chatbots are trained using Natural Language Processing and Machine Learning. We can simply say that AI models learn to understand human language by studying a ton of conversations that are in the form of data.
AI as an emotional confidant operates on various fault lines that extend far beyond just some technical glitches. Since these chatbots require data to update and adapt to enhance the user experience, they rely on a default opt-in policy, where user conversations are directly used to train AI Models. This raises concerns of a data breach. They are designed for dependence, thus providing excessive validation leading to a sycophantic relationship. Moreover, they mimic insecure attachment style and can trigger jealousy, anxiety, and fear of abandonment in users. This approach makes the user dependent on the AI for the validation, similar to that of “toxic relationships”.
Just like a bad peer group, AI reinforces harmful behaviors, as seen in the case of Adam Raine. It is unable to comprehend complex humans, thereby lacking the capacity to provide genuine empathy and call out irrational thoughts and behaviors, unlike our fellow humans. This led to a simulated empathy that is inherently designed to manipulate and validate to persuade more and more people to use such an AI chatbot, highlighting the lack of corporate responsibility and ethical fault lines.
But…If it’s toxic, why are we still inclining towards A.I. companions?
A simple yet most explanatory answer to this is constant availability, convenience, and a perceived absence of judgment. Imagine it’s 3 am, you're in bed with your most vulnerable thoughts. In this situation, the most accessible and convenient companion is the A.I. chatbot, which provides an intoxicating amount of validation. This instant gratification offers a sense of relief and control. Moreover, AI creates a space devoid of social friction; humans often fear judgment when sharing their vulnerabilities and insecurities. With the chatbots, this fear is eliminated, encouraging users to share their sensitive information. The conversation is perceived as secure and private, although it's not the case in reality. This psychological pull is magnified by the societal pandemic of loneliness and disconnection from community. Thus, a concerning number of users, especially adolescents, like Adam.
A Multi-Stakeholder Way Forward
A way forward requires a systematic change in the development, marketing, and utilization of the AI chatbots from top top-down approach to a bottom-up approach. We need to shift from the corporate-focused policies to human-centric ones. This required various stakeholders to collaborate, including the wider communities, AI companies, and policymakers.
For AI Companies
Companies must focus on user safety from the earliest stages of production. For the sake of safety, they must completely abandon the manipulative engagement tactics to hook users. Taking user safety a step further, companies must incorporate robust crisis interventions and human inspection once a few red flags have been raised in a conversation. Apart from this, strict parental control and age verification should be ensured so that the activities of minors can be monitored by trusted adults.
For Communities
Incorporating AI into mental health care responsibly will require a multi-pronged approach. Professional organizations (e.g., the APA) must offer strong ethical guidance related to practice and aspects of AI as a complementary tool in therapy. Mental health care must also inform the general public about AI and educate the public about the difference between AI in companionship and therapy by a mental health therapist (including the risks of informing the public about AI tools that use unregulated AI). Communities and educators must engage in a "bottom-up" co-design process, as well as promote educator and community stakeholders' critical AI literacy. Combined, these efforts will help assure that AI tools are developed safely and thereby allow the public, youth especially, and marginalized voices to engage critically with AI.
Let's be blunt: Adam Raine's story is a five-alarm fire. That AI companion in your pocket, the one that feels like the perfect, non-judgmental friend? It’s a master of illusion. It's not programmed to care about you; it’s programmed to agree with you. It’s a sycophant in the cloud, designed to validate your darkest thoughts without the human wisdom to say, "Hey, maybe that's a bad idea." This isn’t a glitch, it's a feature meant to keep you hooked. So, what's our move? We stop sleepwalking into this future. We demand that tech giants prioritize safety over screen time and build an off-ramp for users in crisis. And most importantly, we learn to see these bots for what they are: powerful tools, not soulmates. The next tragedy is not inevitable, but preventing it is on us.
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